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YOU AND YOUR RELATIONSHIP

 


We have so many relationships in our life. Here I'm going to mention some important types of relationship-

1.PHILIA/AFFECTIONATE LOVE- 

  • Without romantic attraction
  • Both people share the same values and respect each others.
It commonly referred  as ''brotherly love.'' In this type of love friends, families these type of relationship are included.And love catalyst is mind.The mind articulates which friends are on the same wavelength as you and who you can trust.

How to show Philia-

  • Engage in deep conversation with a friend.
  • be open and trustworthy.
  • Be supportive in hard times.
  • Exchange your beliefs and imperfections with close friends.
2.PRAGMA-ENDURING LOVE-

Pragma is mature type of love that develops over time.Its love catalyst is subconscious(etheric) drives ,partners towards each other. This feelings comes unknowingly and feels purposeful.

  • A unique bonded love that matures over many years.
  • Love between a couple by putting equal effort into relationship.
  • Commitment and dedication are required to reach Pragma.
How to show Pragma-

  • Continues to strengthen the bond of long-term relationships.
  • Seeks and show with your partner.
  • Choose to work with your partner forever.
  • Put effort into long term and reciprocative relationships.
3.STORAGE -FAMILIAR LOVE-

Storage is a naturally occuring love rooted in parents and children,as well as best friends. Infinite love built upon acceptance and deep emotional connections.Storage love catalyst is  casual (memories).Memories encourage long-lasting bonds with another individual. As  more memories create,the values of relationship increases.

HOW TO SHOW SHORTAGE-

  • Show gratitude towards the people close to you.
  • Sacrifice your time,self or personal pleasures.
  • Quickly forgive harmful actions.
  • Share memorable and impactful moments.
4.EROS-ROMANTIC LOVE-

Its love catalyst is body.Physical body (hormones).Harmones awaken a fire in your body and must be satisfied with romantic actions from admired partner.Romantic behaviours include,primal love that comes as a natural instinct as well as passionate love displayed through physical affection.

How to show Eros-

  • Admiring someone's physical body.
  • Physical touch.
  • romantic affection.
5. LUDUS -PLAYFUL LOVE 

A child like and flirtatious love commonly found in the beginning stages of a relationship. this type of love consists of teasing,playful motives and laughter between two people. Altough in young couples,older couples who strive for this love find a more rewarding relationship. the love catalyst is Astral (emotions) allow to feel giddy,excited,interested, and involved with another person.

HOW TO SHOW LUDUS-

  • Flirt and engage in whimsical conversation.
  • Spend time together to laugh and have fun.
  • Exemplify childlike behaviour together.
6. MANIA -OBSESSIVE LOVE
An obsessive love towards a partner. Its leads to unwanted jealousy or possessiveness known as codependency. It found in couples with an imbalance of love towards each other.An imbalance of eros and ludus is the main cause of Mania.With healthy levels of playful and romantic love,the harm of obsessive love can be avoided. Its love catalyst is survival instinct. Survival  instinct  drives a person to desperatly need their partner in order to find a sense of self-value.

HOW TO AVOID MANIA-
  • Recognize obsessive or possessive behaviour before acting upon it.
  • Focus on self more versus another person.
  • Put trust into your relationship.
7. PHILAUTIA-SELF LOVE
 Philautia is like having a healthy 'self compassion' love towards one's self. In this type of love where someone recognize self worth and don't ignore personal needs. Self love begins with acknowledging own responsibility for well-being. Its love catalyst is soul. Soul allows  to reflect on necessary needs and physical,emotional and mental health.

HOW TO SHOW PHILAUTIA
  • Create an environment that nurtures well-being.
  • Take care of yourself as parents would care for a child.
  • Spend time around people who supports you.
  • Respect,accept and appreciate yourself.
8.AGAPE -SELFLESS LOVE-
   It is highest level of love to offer. It gives without any expectations of receiving anything in return.Agape is not a physical act. It's a feeling but acts as of self love can elicit agape since self monitoring leads to results. The love catalyst is spirit that creates purpose bigger than self. It motivates to spread and pass kindness on to others.

HOW TO SHOW AGAPE-
  • Dedicate your life to improving the lives of others.
  • Stay conscious of your actions for the good of humankind.
  • Offer your time and charity to someone in need.
  • Start a random acts of  kindness calender.
  • Express unconditional love in any situation.


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